I had a rough day on Monday. Nothing particularly wrong happened, but all my insecurities were in full force. I went to a friend for help, but it didn't. She offered advice on what I could be doing better—this made my gremlins shout louder.
The next morning, I heard a great tip from Adam Grant—Tell people what role you want them to play. Are you looking for a stamp of approval? To see their thought process? Have your opinions challenged? Just get a hug?
We can't expect the people around us to read our minds. They want to help and be there for us. Let's make that as easy as possible. Ask for what you need.